Play Beyond Expectations

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Blog posts February 2022

Play Beyond Expectations” gives people with disabilities the chance to surpass perceived limitations

by Lane Chevrier.


Play Beyond Expectations is a community activity group that focuses on uncovering the latent strength of people with disabilities while providing physical exercise and socialization. Participants are encouraged to try physical activities such as pickleball and hockey in an environment that adapts to limitations and provides encouragement.

 Founder Brian Gray is a development coach who came up with the idea of challenging the assumptions that can hold people with disabilities back, which often focus on the person’s lack of ability rather than their strengths.

“Play Beyond Expectations reflects the experience of the individuals that come, because every session, every client does things that either they didn’t expect, or the parents or support workers didn’t expect,” he says.

Gray says that the program is about uncovering a new realm of possibilities not only for the client, but also the caregivers. He encourages them to create activity plans that allow for personal growth, rather than stagnation.

“One of the focuses in the program is to get the parents and the support workers to see the person differently. It’s designed to give that client the best chance to succeed, and everybody else the best chance to see it,” he says. “If the staff make assumptions about what the person can or cannot do, and set up their program accordingly, then the person is never given a chance to exceed anybody’s expectations.”

Gray says that the key to positive development is the recognition of progress and achievement, no matter how small.

“The goal for every session is for every client to be affirmed in what their progress was in that session,” he says. “I think it’s really important because sometimes the steps forward are really small, but I think if the affirmation is there, and if it’s an enthusiastic affirmation, that really helps sustain the effort to keep on going and discovering what they can do.”

Trying new things is difficult, but Gray says that the crucial thing is for participants to push forward and allow their brain and body to adapt and develop new skills.

“They come in and they’re afraid they’re going to fail, but first of all, the important thing is to try and make the effort, and then be patient and keep trying,” he says. “I have a phrase: Give your brain a chance.”

Adapting to adult life can be difficult for some people with disabilities, because if they’re not skilled at advocating for themselves, they may not be able to access adequate support to help them reach their full potential. Gray says that his program focuses on finding people who have slipped through the cracks and giving them a chance to succeed.

“This program is looking at pulling them out of the crevasse and setting them up on the next level of being able to try and get a better quality of life,” he says. “The thing is, when you get that celebration and you get the endorphins going and everything, it just cycles, and there’s that old phrase, ‘nothing succeeds like success,’ and suddenly you’re more energized to try the next step, and we just keep building.”

Gray says that peer acceptance and the push to reach new heights can lead to unexpected success.

“You’re in an environment where it’s okay to be you,” he says. “The program is totally focused on development. Simple things can lead to big things.”

Sessions run on Tuesday 3:30-5 pm and 7:30-8:30pm, and Friday 1:30-3 pm, at Esquimalt Recreation Centre. Entrance fee is $5.75 per session, and parents and caregivers attend for free.  Participants may also bring a friend for free.  Phone Brian for information 250-857-4017, or for volunteer opportunities.

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By Sandra Dixon

 When I was young about 7 or 8 I felt there were 3 things wrong with me. One, I was a girl. Two, I was a blonde girl. When, girls were thought to be the weaker sex. Blondes were thought to be ditzy, dumb or not all there.

 As I got older I sometimes used I was dumb to my advantage, so the boys would stop bugging me.  Sometimes I hated being a girl because of the monthly thing only girls went through. But the 3rd thing was being a disabled blonde girl.

Being a disabled person was and is the hardest thing to deal with. When I was a teen, I was very shy, I walked around school with my head down and kept to myself.

 February, is Black history month and as I got older, I started thinking about disabled people before me and how hard it must have been for them especially for women of colour. Being a disabled blonde girl was nothing compared to what they went through just because of colour of their skin.

 Yes, I was a girl. Now I am a woman, that gave birth to a child that loves me. Sometimes he doesn’t love me that much. But that’s okay. I was blonde, now I’m going gray. I play dumb or act ditzy sometimes because it’s fun and I love it. I know people that are not blonde that still say and do dumb things.

 Being disabled is still hard, trying to get people to listen to me and take me seriously is still the biggest thing. In my life I have found caring and loving people. Now, I don’t CARE what other people think of me anymore. I am woman and I don’t think you want to hear me roar.

I wrote this mid February 2020.

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